Divorce--Avoid These Common Traps

by Ed Sherman

Is there a way to make your divorce easier and cheaper? Absolutely! The right information can put you in control and make your divorce smoother, faster, cheaper, less aggravating and less painful. Here are four traps and how to avoid them when going through a divorce.

IGNORANCE is the most common trap you will face when getting divorced. To get through your divorce with the most peace of mind, while spending the least amount of money, you need to know all the facts and have all relevant documents in order. BAD JUDGMENT is a real hazard when emotions are running high, as is normal in divorce. Insecurity can cripple you. Fear and anger can make you grasp for too much or surrender too much, leading to a settlement you may regret. EXCESSIVE SPENDING is very common before, during and after a separation. It is used as an anesthetic for emotional pain. After separation you need money to set up two separate lifestyles, and can't afford neurotic spending driven by emotional upset. HIDING MONEY can happen when it becomes clear that a divorce is coming and one spouse starts salting money away in a private stash. Copyright 2005 Ed Sherman

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Ed Sherman is a family law attorney, divorce expert, and founder of Nolo Press. He started the self-help law movement in 1971 when he published the first edition of How to Do Your Own Divorce, and founded the paralegal industry in 1973. With more than a million books sold, Ed has saved the public billions of dollars in legal fees while making divorce go more smoothly and easily for millions of readers. You can order his books from www.nolodivorce.com or by calling (800) 464-5502.