When you’re going through divorce, it’s only natural for your friends and family who care about you to want to help. It’s hard for them to stand by and watch you going through such a difficult time, but they may not know how to help, or what they think is helping might actually be making things worse.

If you find yourself in the awkward position of receiving well meant concern that isn’t helping, you could gently suggest to your well-wisher that they read an article at Huffington Post by Jackie Pilossoph called “10 Ways To Help Someone Going Through A Divorce“.

Your friend will learn that giving advice is not such a good idea right now, and that inviting you for a coffee, drink, walk or jog would be better. Hugging can also be helpful, as well as letting you know you are welcome to confide in them, and that your confidences will be safe.

Other helpful things your friends can do is continue including you in couples’ nights, offer to babysit (if you have kids) and listen when you need to vent, without bad-mouthing your ex.

We hope you find the entire article useful. You need all the help you can get while going through divorce, but it needs to be the right kind of help.